The Notebook and styles of love intertwined

The movie The Notebook is about A poor and passionate young man who falls in love with a rich young woman and gives her a sense of freedom. They soon are separated by their social differences.


One of John Lee's style of love called Storge love can best exemplify the love story that unfolds between Ally and Noah. This style of love is said to occur over the passage of time. In the movie it was Noah who had an attraction and a crush on Ally. She did not like him at first. However Noah won her over with his charm and gained her friendship. The relationship was able to prosper and continue because there was consistency, commitment intimacy and comfortability. The couple enjoyed each other companionship and doing activities together.


Another theory known as Reiss's Wheel theory notes that love develops over the course of four main stages; 1)Building rapport 2)Self Revelation 3) Mutual Dependency 4) Personality Need Fulfillment


Establishing Rapport with someone else is the first step in building a relationship. People usually meet people who live near them, work with them or share the same interest and the same activities. After rapport is established. People then feel comfortable about disclosing themselves. As the relationship becomes intimate, the couple might be dependent and expect certain things from their partner. Last stage is personality need fulfillment, where the couple might need to make decisions together to support one another's goals and ambition.


The scenario in the movie shows that Noah met Ally through mutual friends and established a friendship first. As time progress they felt comfortable with each other and revealed themselves and then introduced each other to their parents. Over the course of more time the relationship became more emotionally and sexually intimate. Lastly Noah had a dream oh building a dream house from bottom up for Ally ( the love of his life). He buys her art materials and support her skills and talent and dreams even though she thought of her painting as foolishness.