In the movie Forest Gump, Forest fall in love with his childhood friend Jenny. Forest is a mentally challenged boy who get teased by the other children. Jenny, on the other hand was willing to befriend him. While She only saw him as a friend, Forest saw her as more than a friend and fell in love with her. He thought as his Angel. Jenny wanted to be free like a bird and escape her problems at home. Forest always did his best to protect her because of his love for her.
Lee's Style of Love:
Lee's Agape theory describes a person in love, who displays altruistic love that is self-sacrificing, kind and patient. This type of love is never jealous or demanding and does not seek reciprocity.
Forest displayed many concepts of Agape love. He didn't show jealous or demanding feelings. Although Forest didn't enjoy seeing Jenny with another man, he respected her decision and never asked her to be with him instead. Forest was also kind, patient, and always protecting Jenny to the point of self-sacrifice. Once after the man Jenny was going out with hit her, Forest punched him. Overall, Forest kept protecting her knowing he would never have a chance to be with her.
Attachment Theory:
This theory claims that babies develop one of three attachment styles Secure Style, Avoidant Style, and Anxious/Ambivalent Style. Babies who are secure are easily trusting and can easily feel close to others. Babies who are Avoidant Style babies find it hard to trust others and become close to them. Anxious/Ambivalent style worries their lover doesn't love them. They feel that their partner doesn't want to get as close to them as they would like. Each baby stays in their specific attachment style all the way through adulthood, ruling out any possibility of entering a different attachment style.
Jenny displayed the Avoidant Style because she felt uncomfortable being close. When Jenny was young she said "Dear God make me a bird so I an fly far far way." When she grows up, she still wants to escape and be free. She has been Avoidant from when she was a baby all the way through adulthood. Forest displayed the Anxious/Avoidant style. He shows this throughout the entire movie. While she is trying to escape and be free, he wants Jenny to want to be with him. He wishes she would be closer to him.
Thursday, March 1, 2012
50 First Dates
Henry Roth (Sandler), a womanizing marine-life veterinarian, spends his life in Hawaii for short-term sexual conquests and caring for animals in an aquatic amusement park with his assistants One day he meets Lucy Whitmore (Barrymore), a local art teacher; they hit it off and agree to meet again. However the next day when Henry returns, Lucy has no memory of him or their previous meeting, and Henry learns the explanation from the café owner: as a result of a car accident a year earlier, Lucy suffers from a form of amnesia in which each day's events disappear from her memory overnight. Falling in love with Lucy, Henry sheds his philandering ways and devises new ways to 'meet' her again every day, hoping that one day she will retain her memories, and feelings, for him.
Lee's Styles of Loving: Agape- They have an altruistic love especially Henry(Sandler) because he is self-sacrificing his life by being with her even though she forgets about him and does not remember him the next day. He is very kind and patient, never jealous or demanding and definitely does not seek reciprocity because he knows that it is not possible.
Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love: Intimacy, Passion and Commitment are part of this movie and their love. Intimacy because there are feelings of closeness, connectedness and bonding. Passion which leads to romance, physical attraction and sexual consummation which occurred between the both of them. Commitment and Decision because Henry made a decision to commit to her no matter what was wrong with her, he was going to be by her side. In the long-term they have a commitment to one another to maintain that love over time.
The movie No Strings Attached is about two people, who were friends when they were younger, and continue to run into eacher other as they get older. Eventually they decide to have a "No Strings Attached" relationship, where they will just sleep with eachother and be friendly, but not have any emotional or romantic connections. In the end they realize that their relationship has changed because of how much time they spend together, the end up falling in love.
Infatuating love from Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love is one theory that explains the relationship in this movie. The couple has a lot of passion, but they decidedly plan to not have commitment, which is the no strings attatched part. There is also little intimacy. At one point after they hook up, Ashton Kutcher's character snuggles, but Natalie Portmans character says she thinks they shouldn't do that. So there is definintely no intimacy allowed.
Ludus from Lee's Styles of Love also applies to the couple. This specific relationship is very playful in nature and involves little commitment. Also, at one point in the movie, the girl character thinks there is too much intimacy/attachment developing between them, so she tells the guy to go sleep with other girls. This relates to the point that in ludus there may be multiple partners.
Water for Elephants
Water for Elephants is based during the Great Depression where a veterinary student is put in charge of circus animals. While on his journey on this circus he falls for a former circus performer. The former circus performer happens to be married to the animal trainer. One theory that is very apparent is Attachment theory, the husband has a very anxious/ambivalent style of love. Although he knows his wife is not in love with him anymore he is reluctant to let her go, he is completely attached to her and will stop at nothing to make sure she is his forever. Another theory visible in this movie is Lee's Style of Love, the two that stuck out the most is Eros because the veterinary student instantly fell in love with the former circus performer, the moment he saw her he knew she was the one and wanted to know everything about her. Storge is the other form of love the two resemble, their love was about trust, respect, affection, and passion.
Love and Loving Relationship
This week we discussed several micro-level theories of love : i.e. attachment theory, Reiss's wheel theory of love, Steinberg's triangular theory of love, Lee's styles of love and more and macro-level theory that states that society controls love.
Choose a movie with an interesting love story, summarize it briefly. Then, choose two theories that explain the best the love story in the movie. Present each theory in a paragraph and explain why this theory is relevant. Use an appropriate image from the movie if you wish.
CASINO ROYALE _LUDUS_LEE's STYLE OF LOVE
In the Lee's style of Love, the movie Casino Royale can represent the Ludus component of this theory. The previous James Bond characters were not not known to fall in love with the women they came across. But in this movie, James Bond falls in love with Vesper Lynd, an agent for Her Majesty's (HM) Treasury, that was aasigned to fund and monitor Bond's poker table activities.
The love was playful, carefree, and there was no commitment. Even though bond was in love with Vesper, he hardly expressed it, except for a few scenes in the movie where it was truly obvious that he had become a bit emotionally attached to her. He was not committed to Vesper because he still slept with the wife of Alex Dimitrios, named Solange. Alex Dimitrios was a contractor in the international terrorist underground, whom it was part of James Bond's mission to uncover his activities in The Bahamas.
Love Theories
Titanic is a romantic love movie that is about a boy and girl from differing social backgrounds meet during the ill-fated maiden voyage of the Titanic and fall in love. One theory that describes this movie is Lee's agape theory of love. This theory fits with this movie because Rosa and Jack fall in love, but are not able to completely be with each other. Rosa has a fiance, Jack is patient enough an keeps trying to get Rosa to himself and eventually she does sacrifice her previous relationship to be with Jack. Another theory that best describes this movie is the Macro theory of love. Not that society did control Rosa and Jacks relationship, it shows how society tried to control them. For example, Rosa and her mother coming from a wealthier background, her mom tried to keep Jack away from her because he did not have the same social background as Rosa's fiance. To her mother he was not good enough for her, therefore she tried to keep them away from each other, but eventually failed.
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